It's easy to not understand emotional healing. We commonly suffer from emotional pain and it's so easy to end up believing it's due to what we refer to as 'bad' emotions. And if we could just stop feeling those bad emotions, then we could get relief
In reality, this stands as the exact opposite of emotional healing. It's actually what creates emotional pain to begin with. That's because emotional pain comes from blocking off the flow of emotion.
It's important to understand all emotions flow through the same pathway. So when you attempt to shut out the hurt or the fear or the anger, then you've just blocked the flow of all your feelings. Which means you just reduced the flow of what you want to feel - like joy and happiness and love and wonder.
It compares to a water pipe. The hot and cold water both flow through the same pipe. But you don't want to feel the hot water. It might burn you. So you start to turn off the flow. But the hot and cold water both flow in the same pipe. So when you reduce the hot water, you're also reducing the cold water.
There you have the first problem.
Next, your heart was made to feel, but when you don't let it, that creates the second problem. The function of your heart is to feel all your feelings. By restricting those feelings from coming into your heart, that will create pain.
Why? Because pain comes from a separation from, and a longing for, some thing. In this instance, it comes from your heart being separated from your feelings, which it longs to feel. This will create pain.
The third problem concerns what happens to those unfelt feelings. They don't just fly off into space. They don't just dissolve into nothingness. No. They stick around. They end up causing a lot of aggravation and irritation as they surround you.
The fourth problem is that when you start blocking the flow of feeling, you create a wall that surrounds your heart. When you close off your heart, what actually happens is that you must use your own thoughts and feelings. Just like when blood clots. It's the blood that stops the flow of blood.
But in this case, that clot, or wall, or barrier becomes the very source of pain. It forms a little pain factory. So much of the emotional pain you feel actually comes from this wall. Because it's made up of the thoughts and feelings you didn't want to feel!
These four reasons are why emotional healing is so misunderstood. We think we should cut off the flow of emotion even more so we can feel better, but that's the very reason the problem exists at all. The answer is to go the exact opposite route.
Open up your heart even more! Feel everything and anything that comes up. That's how you heal. Or that's the overview, anyway. There's many other secrets and techniques you can use to help yourself. For example, much of what you feel isn't real emotion. It's a fabrication. Made of artificial feelings and mental constructs.
It's these imaginary feelings that create the pain. Healing emotional pain involves ending those imaginary feelings so you can get to what's real. That's how to end emotional pain. That's how you get to the point of feeling whatever you want to feel.
And there's an awesome resource to help you. To learn practical common-sense techniques to feel better, visit this site on emotional healing.
